gentlemen what's going on...why do we suck at relationships...
and by we ,, i mean the western culture in general.. not you or me specifically

but to be honest ive sucked at relationships as well....because i followed what i THOUGHT a
relationship was or is supposed to be....but fuck...who the hell really knows

and It's self-evident that relationships are in quite the predicament,  look at the divorce rates,
and the winding navigation of the new age social media scene....
 
among scores of other life challenges, that will.... always rear their devious head...

death, taxes, breakups, break ins breakouts etc. etc...
 like a pissed off overweight diva when the all you can eat buffet runs out of bacon.

shit happens and shit leaves us pissed, confused and complicated

  Those .karens. deaths and the likes,
are ONLY a start to the difficulties..... a relationship CAN and will encounter

man and woman meet, they like each other, they pursue each other
but man has a past, woman has a past too....

man has his belief system and woman has her belief system

maybe they're heading in the same direction, but man has an idea of how to get there
and woman believes in her ways to arrive at said destination are better

and this presents problems...... but this is life....billions of people all wanting
their little piece of happiness...
but all varying in the actions to get there...

and so the engine, the power and force running relationships off the cliff to their death
is...... the instant gratification curse of modernity...

oh what a fucking curse it is......"I WANT IT NOW" AND MY WAY IS THE BEST

AND SO THE REASON RELATIONSHIPS SUCK IS...

We too often have a short term mindset with a temporary behaviors
, we cut corners in effort to have it OUR WAY NOW!!.  but The fast way now is the LONG way in the end...

we ignore the red flags....such as...she has three kids with three different baby daddies
...umm she hasn't worked in 5 years....and it ALWAYS has to be her way.....

we overlook these for the temporary pleasure of some fantasy
.....we've cooked up in our head of what relationships are
supposed to look like.....but according to who.....the news....the media....the newest song....OR YOU...

This lust for intense instant gratification cause these tiny debts to ACCUMULATE
 until eventually were bankrupt .....

we give up a little freedom for this....we give up a piece of OUR direction for that

we lose a little bit of our sovereignty for a seat at the table of uncomfotable slavery

ever felt like the cultural standard of relationships or... ANYTHING for that matter HAS YOU anchored down...

So the perfect relationship template in its cookie cutter fashion needs to be...MMM injected with a fresh look ....

it needs to fit YOU and your direction,  what do YOU want, are you more traditional,

are you seeking money, freedom, love, a partner, fun, adventure, simplicity. Etc etc.

and then go to work finding a compatible partner....key word compatible...not perfect..

perfect doesnt fucking exist

because WHO THE HELL believes love is going to fall from the heavens and hit you square in the love hole.....
without any effort......

nothing in life is guaranteed and easy,,,,,and those selling you that shit
need to be slapped and kicked in THEIR love holes....

fuck love and all its new age watered down bullshit....
modern love is a WEAK depiction of what a relationship is actually supposed to look like...

a relationship is specific to those involved....and in an INTIMATE partnership.... it is distinct
to those TWO tied together....

so we have to remove ourselves from the societal narrative... and begin to blatantly refuse
the sign posts of weak ass relationship standards...

So here's to brining new ideas to what it means to have a relati9nship

and by new I mean a recoursing to the old and traditional way of excellence and a commitment

 to a code. to having actual self imposed standards

fuck the white washed two story house with the lame ass white picket fence....
thats not your direction , then don't get caught up in fooling yourself into the
mockery of what a true relationship..... is supposed to be and represent...

Instant is the biggest lie sold to us modern men...

because its the trial and efforts,,,,its the actual slaying of the dragons that release the
true power of what lies within a man...

EASY doesn't make you a man....kids enjoy an easy life....
and we see how pissed off they get when it doesn't go their way...

"give me back my damn transformer brandon

but its the ability to put in the work, the capacity to see beyond the instant pleasure
and the ability to see life's red flags that give men guidance

and relationships are no different.... and so i suggested a recoursing to the old tradition of excellence

and i guess what i mean there is ....to hold yourself to a higher standards....hell to create your standard outside
of the masses crippled and limping principles...

what does a relationship look like to you....can you ignore the instant pleasures of lust and what its supposed to be
according to tik tok and hollywood....

so that you can build and construct something that last...

its cool to go to walmart and get a ready made desk that i can put together in less than 10 minutes...

i get it home and it looks good...colors match the room....whooohhh boy,,im such
a handy man....all put together and no extra pieces

but as soon as i put the pc on it and add a few extra aesthetics...

it begins to sway and buckle under the weight

its cheap materials and mass assembly line production coulndt hold the weight of reality

i would have been better off if i had been patient and waited for the amish made desk that was going
to take a little longer to make....but built with care, standards and experience...

we suck at relationships because we want it now,,,and we want it easy....so we ignore the faulty constructions
hoping that just maybe, we can be the exception to the old age rule.....cheap and easy falls to shit....