The Kat and Brayden breakup conversation featured classic examples of defensiveness, right-or-wrong thinking, and (dare we say) a litttttttle hint of gaslighting. In this Bachelor in Paradise 2023 episode 3 recap, we dissect their breakup conversations in depth and talk about why things got so ugly so fast - and how we can all avoid or at least better manage these types of conflicts in our own dating lives.

We also double click into the nuances of Theresa and Kathy's conflict in The Golden Bachelor episode 3, and we were surprised with how much we ended up empathizing with *both* women.

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