'The Hidden Power,' Host Dr Susan Koruthu
Everyone knows how damaging it was to live as a victim of any abuse such as domestic abuse or sexual or social or workplace abuse. Everyone blames the victim for staying in a relationship or being a victim.
They ask the victim if the torture was obvious, then why didn’t you seek help or why didn’t you make the noise in the beginning? Why are you making it a big deal now? Where were you until this time? It was only now you realised you had been abused.
Here is common prejudice against the victims of domestic violence and sexual abuse, such as the victims and abusers knew each other prior to the abuse happen. And therefore, the perception is that the victims are in any way responsible for the actions of offenders.
The truth is that anyone can be a victim of manipulation and victim-blaming
Victim blaming includes: she was asking for it," said of a victim of violence or sexual assault. Disbelieving the victim's story, minimizing the severity of the attack, making comments such as how shameful it is to be in such a state or you are not strong or assertive.
How could you get into such trouble? You are an intelligent person and we never expected something like this from you.
The victim-blaming scares the victim more than the abuse and it silences the victim
The silence of the victim is the catalyst for the abuser.
We need to understand that we all become victims at one point of time or a period of time in our life. When we are vulnerable and weak, we become victims.
You need to have an empathetic heart and an empathetic ear to hear and support the victims.
Develop a non-judgmental attitude and unconditional positive regard to all.
Let us make an environment where victims are confident to present their issues confidently to their loved ones.
When victims get the confidence of not being blamed or accused of things wrongly happened to them, they will take the courage to share their issues and seek proper help.
Dr Susan Koruthu is a multifaceted life psychologist and mind wellness coach, and author who helps build healthy and successful lives. Through her 'The Hidden Power' podcasts, she gives you insights into various vital areas of life and creates a magnificent life of your choice.
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