Welcome to the premiere episode of the “It’s Not That” series on The Commitment to Growth Podcast! In this series, we delve deep into understanding ourselves and transforming our lives by shifting our perspective towards the struggles we face. Get ready for insightful discussions and practical tips to heal your inner people-pleaser challenges with grace.
 
In this episode, we explore the intricacies of people-pleasing, uncovering its roots and learning how to become more aware of our patterns from it. Mariana takes us on a journey of self-discovery, inviting us to examine our own behaviours and patterns that lead to self-abandonment in our relationships. "People-pleasing" isn't just a label; it's a symptom of deeper emotional wounds. From childhood experiences to societal expectations, we unpack the various factors that contribute to this behaviour.
 
Discover how to navigate the triggers that lead you to people-please and empower yourself to prioritize and communicate your needs and desires. Mariana will walk you through a powerful 3-step process to amplify the voice of your heart to reclaim your authenticity and break free from the cycle of people-pleasing - with a bonus included!

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A personal message for the days you feel "too much": https://www.instagram.com/reel/C5gdMSmL6uh/?igsh=MWR3MG1qOGptcmJteg==

The Way of Integrity by Martha Beck: https://marthabeck.com/the-way-of-integrity/
 

Takeaways:

• People-pleasing is a symptom of deeper emotional wounds and learned behaviors
• Language plays a crucial role in shaping our self-perception and behavior; shifting from "I am a people-pleaser" to "I have people-pleasing tendencies" fosters awareness and growth.
• People-pleasing often stems from childhood experiences, societal expectations, and the desire for love and acceptance.
• Healing from people-pleasing involves mastering the space between stimulus and response, prioritizing self-awareness and authenticity. - Embracing your truth and speaking from your heart fosters genuine connections and conscious conversations. - A practical 3-step process is introduced to confront people-pleasing tendencies: identifying limiting beliefs, communicating authentically, and embracing your true self. - Healing from people-pleasing is a journey of self-discovery and empowerment, leading to greater authenticity and fulfillment in life. 

Chapters:
0:40 - How people pleasing creates inner conflict within ourselves
8:10- Holding space for ourselves in healing our people pleasing wounds
11:10 - Reframing how we speak to ourselves to become aware of people-pleasing behaviours 14:45 - Examples of early life experiences that wire us to become people-pleasures
21:44 - The double edged sword involved in people pleasing
23:50 - How people pleasing leads us to live via a perception of a perception 27:20 - How to navigate people pleasing in the corporate world
35:45 - Mariana’s personal examples of how healing people pleasing transformed her life
41:41 - A 3-step process for you to become aware of your people pleaser wounds when they arise and communicate from your authentic truth