In Paul Stanley's new book Backstage Pass he brings up the differences between having a dream and holding onto a fantasy. One is real while the other keeps generating mental images of something you're probably not going to hold. Being part of a dream means you accept the pitfalls that go with the itty bitty victories. Whereas a fantasy keeps the door open for false actions and reactions that are materialized to help calm the fears connected to failure. I don't have a relationship with fantasy. The day I met actor Bradley Cooper was a dream come true. I didn't sit back and think of the potential of there being a meeting. Everyday I worked hard at what I was doing that eventually led to that door being open. I've never fantasized my podcast network would be as big as Marc Maron or Conan O'Brein. The dream was to be exactly what podcasting is... A niche. Hitting one million was a hell of a journey and well worth the tests and struggles. In your own everyday place on the planet learn to become aware of what having a dream is about versus the fantasy. Too often we see the musicians, actors, acrobatics and all others on America's Got Talent fantasizing of winning. What are they hoping to achieve? That one million dollar check and a date in Vegas? What happens when it's over? Do they try for American Idol of NBC's The Voice. Fantasies aren't real. Invest in making your dreams come true. Keep them real and extremely close. Protect what you're being called to accomplish. Don't let the fantasy of success be the apple you bite into and inside sits a worm. A true dreamer would eat that worm and shout out, "Give me more!"