I in no way whatsoever defend Candy, but you said the family should decide her fate. Is this the same family that so generously helped her care for her grandfather? If you have ever cared for a loved one, totally dependant on you, it can be more than exhausting. I just cared for someone I loved dearly. I could not go anywhere. I did all the house cleaning, cooking, shopping, bathing, feeding changing diapers, and endured being attacked, bitten, hair pulled, and feces spread in my face as her dementia increased. I was 50 and my children had just left home. I am now 60 and lost those 10 years, not sorry, just sad. So, when did the family come to help, right, they didn't. They came for the will reading and to take the valuables. It was hard!!!! I could not leave her alone. I had some wonderful days, and again sobbed myself to sleep on many nights. I was so tired. I know what help there is available, very little. The Medicare funded re-hab when she broke her hip was sooooo bad. I found her on the floor 3 times in one month, once naked with no clothes in the room. I would go so far as to say that this facility put the wheels in motion, for what was to be her decent into death. I went in to find her on the floor, went to ask for help, the aide slapped her i-phone phone on the desk and rolled her eyes at me. It is so very ugly what happens if a soul has no money and no one who loves them. I am saying all this so you can see a different perspective. I am recovering but wondering if I will ever be the same again after this experience that caused PTSD. I do not think you gave enough information such as length of time she cared for him, who helped, or how he died in order for someone to absolutely understand the story. I guess I will have to watch the actual episode on snapped. I do appreciate your pod casts, I just do not think you at all understand, end of life events, nor what is available. I think if you listened to it again you might hear, what I heard, that Candy cared for her grandfather, because no one else could/would, and these people should decide her fate. If they had helped her at all they would have known what was going on, and perhaps she would not have snapped.

I wanted to clear up somethings you said on this podcast. I will start with you stated Medicare pays for someone to go into a hospice. This is not true. Hospice will come into your home to provide you with meds, supplies, a shower and bed change once a week. If you need to go into a hospice you pay for the facility bad about $4000, good about $9000. Hospice will come into the facility and provide you with what I listed above, but Medicare does not pay for your stay in a facility. Medicare will pay for you to stay in a re-hab after a hospitalization for 30 days, and my be extended to 60, but rarely more than that.