On our third and final Enneagram episode Phil and Jenny chat all about the Dependent Stance.

1s (The Perfectionist), 2s (The Helper), and 6s (The Skeptics/Loyalist) make up this present oriented stance. The Dependent Stance moves towards others (people, institutions, religious ideals etc.) to know what to do, how to feel, and how to move in the world. 

Those in the Dependent Stance are community builders. They walk into the room and they see all the people and they know what to do to help them. They are genuinely the peoplle that make the world go round. Interpersonal relationships matter a lot to the Dependent Stance and if you are in a relationship with one of these folks then it really matters to help them facilitate a healthy relationship with self. Thinking is the center of intelligence that dropped out in childhood for this stance and their work will revolve around learning to honor their own thoughts and ideas. 
As we wrap up our Enneagram episodes, consider what you can learn from each stance we’ve covered? 

• The Dependent Stance is the only stance that is inherently present in the current moment. What does this look like in real time for them?
• For those in the Dependent Stance, how might you come to more enjoy your own company?
• How would you spend a day all to yourself, just for your own enjoyment?
• Caring for self can look like a lot of different things. What does it look like to provide yourself real and lasting self care for folks in this stance?
• How can we who love those in the Dependent Stance bring up their repressed center?

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Chapters00:00 Introduction to the Enneagram Dependent Stance
01:26 Understanding Type One: The Perfectionist
05:02 Stress and Security Movements for Type One
06:16 Self-Compassion and Kindness for Type One
09:37 Understanding Type Two: The Helper
20:11 Self-Avoidance and Boundaries for Type Two
21:10 Stress and Security Movements for Type Two
23:37 Recognizing and Meeting the Needs of Type Two
25:00 Self-Care and Individuality for Type Two
26:36 The Pressure on Southern Women
28:08 Misidentification of Twos and Sixes
29:44 Understanding Type Six: The Loyalist
30:11 Conflicted Thinking of Sixes
32:14 The Doomsdayers - Preparedness of Sixes
33:10 Loyalty and Community Orientation of Sixes
35:17 Self-Care and Loyalty to Oneself
40:29 Phobic and Counterphobic Sixes
42:47 The Healing Message for Sixes
45:19 The Importance of Self-Care for Sixes
46:05 The Work for a More Compassionate World